It is not unusual for us either to demonstrate narcissistic behaviours, or to know people that do, and behave in ways that limit emotional intimacy.<\/p>\n
Narcissistic behaviours may include a person lacking empathy, being self absorbed, manipulating, and exploiting or using others.\u00a0 A narcissistic person is usually unable to reciprocate a natural and mutual flow of giving and receiving in a relationship.<\/p>\n
At the core of these unhelpful behaviours often stems a narcissistic wound which develops at a young age.\u00a0 It can also be passed down to the next family generation if it is unresolved.\u00a0 This wound is called a false sense of self or a masked self.\u00a0 It develops when caregivers either ignore or place too much attention on their child.\u00a0 The attention may be abusive or unrealistic and grandiose in its\u2019 overt quality.<\/p>\n
The caregiver may also hamper the child\u2019s ability to separate, and negotiate closeness and distance from others.\u00a0 Consequently as the child becomes an adult they may fear being alone and seek co-dependent relationships to maintain their false sense of being special or better than others.<\/p>\n
This means a thirst for attention, validation and being popular overrides their ability to be emotionally intimate \u2013 because this would require the masked defensive self to soften and become realistic. \u00a0In addition such a change can also be scary when meeting our real selves and realising there’s a need to transform the narcissistic wound called abandonment depression.<\/p>\n
A narcissistic person can place unrealistic demands on their partner, friends and family and when disappointed reveal disturbing mood swings.\u00a0 These demands may escalate and the person may become determined that they will \u2018win\u2019 with beliefs driving their behaviour, such as:<\/p>\n
\u201cI deserve better\u201d;<\/em><\/p>\n
\u201cWhen you please me and give me attention I will love you\u201d;<\/em><\/p>\n
\u201cWhat\u2019s yours is mine\u201d; and<\/em><\/p>\n
\u201cMy rules don\u2019t apply to me\u201d.<\/em><\/p><\/blockquote>\n
The emptiness inside that develops because of being ignored or given too much attention by a caregiver, can never be filled by others.<\/p>\n
Transform narcissistic behaviours<\/h3>\n
This is where Mind-Body Psychotherapy is hugely beneficial in providing consistent attunement and enabling a person to be an individual with respectful boundaries,\u00a0 able to uniquely express themselves, be successful in their own right called self activation, and importantly learn to support and humbly receive from others.<\/p>\n
The result of healing the narcissistic wound is increased self esteem, safety for self and others, and a reduction of pressure and stress.<\/p>\n
References<\/p>\n
Epstein, M. \u00a0The Trauma of Everyday Life. 2013.<\/p>\n
Masterson, J. \u00a0The Search for the Real Self. 1990.<\/p>\n
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